I wasn’t sure I could get through the piles.
The end of a long Winter finds us digging out from piles of coats and mittens in the mud room and the accumulated clutter in the corners of the living room, the garage (after all, it’s been too cold in there to clean out the leftover boxes from the holidays!).
For me, “cleaning out” this year meant diving into our bonus room. When Dave moved into the house 4 years ago, my step son Ben was just 6 years old. With him came all sorts of cool 6 year old toys. In the four years since, new toys were added and the old ones got slid off to the side of the room. When I moved in last year, the room was very full of “treasures” that had been forgotten by this now 10 year old.
When we decided to put in a home office, the bonus room was the best choice. Ben doesn’t play with toys much anymore so it made sense.
I could tell Dave was apprehensive about having Ben sort through the toys with me. He didn’t want Ben to feel
like he had to let go of anything he didn’t want to get rid of. As I stood in the doorway and scanned the room, I wasn’t sure Ben and I would get through all the stuff. I knew he didn’t have the attention span to go through toy after toy and make a decision to keep it or let it go. It felt like too big a job. Until I brought a new mindset into the project.
That is how I decided to approach this clearing out process with Ben. Instead of asking him what he wanted to get rid of, I asked him what he wanted to keep.
Keeping this in mind helps you decide what you want to keep in your life in order to feel free. Whether it’s relationships, opportunities, mindset, or situations, this mindset gives you the clarity of what is and isn’t working. Learn to let go of everything bogging you down by focusing on what you want, and by default letting go of the rest.
Instead of taking hours to painstakingly sift through toy after toy, we set a twenty minute timer and I said, “Let’s see if you can pick all the toys you want to keep from this room in twenty minutes or less”.
18 minutes later, after amassing a small pile of toys on the corner he wanted, he said, “ok, I’m all done!”.
That’s the trick!
Decide what stays in your life this year.
Does certain food make you feel crappy? Buy the foods that make you feel good instead and skip the junk.
Does a certain person make you feel bad? Let them go and spend time with the ones that make you feel happy.
Does your house make you feel overwhelmed? Decide what you want to keep and let go of the rest.
I am happily working from my home office these days. Ben’s toys are now kept in a cute fort area in the basement. He loves taking his buddies down there to play.